CAROLYN HAX

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The Mercury News
I don’t eat dairy or bread and they ridicule me for ityou do without feeling the need to respond to commentary about it. Cut to the l
The Mercury News / Posted yesterday
you do without feeling the need to respond to commentary about it. Cut to the last step right away if you feel game.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. I do take issue with... Read more
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The Mercury News
My husband faults me for wanting a clean houseto disapprove of, right? Zero Interest DEAR ZERO INTEREST: Outrageous. Milano
The Mercury News / Posted 3 days ago
to disapprove of, right? Zero Interest DEAR ZERO INTEREST: Outrageous. Milanos with wine, OK, or Lorna Doones.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Re: Lorna Oh... Read more
3d
The Mercury News
I plan to make my family’s life hell for excluding mewant — and emphatically not so when you punish others for not completing the tr
The Mercury News / Posted 3 days ago
want — and emphatically not so when you punish others for not completing the transaction the way you expect them to.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Maturity is admitting... Read more
4d
The Mercury News
I’m a stay-at-home mom, and I hate itsome see being home as right for now. Knowing kids change, needs change, financ
The Mercury News / Posted 4 days ago
some see being home as right for now. Knowing kids change, needs change, finances change, opportunities change.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Maybe you made a for... Read more
5d
The Mercury News
He’s my real dad. Shouldn’t he know I exist?“Marry in haste, and repent at leisure,” and this seems like an “Act in haste,
The Mercury News / Posted 5 days ago
“Marry in haste, and repent at leisure,” and this seems like an “Act in haste, repent at leisure”-type opportunity.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Re: Bio-dad What... Read more
6d
The Mercury News
This girl isn’t allowed to go to anyone else’s houseHow are you dealing with it?” You can have it both ways — respect boundaries a
The Mercury News / Posted 6 days ago
How are you dealing with it?” You can have it both ways — respect boundaries and take the creepiness very seriously.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Re: Emma The... Read more
7d
The Mercury News
My daughter only obeys my husbandCarolyn Hax DEAR CAROLYN: My husband and I don’t see eye-to-eye on discipline.
The Mercury News / Posted 7 days ago
Carolyn Hax DEAR CAROLYN: My husband and I don’t see eye-to-eye on discipline. Our kids are generally good kids, but they don’t treat us with the respect I think we ought to have. When I announce that dinner is ready — the kids do not help at all —... Read more
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8d
The Mercury News
Ashamed of recent arroganceown faults have better relationships than those who always look to blame others
The Mercury News / Posted 8 days ago
own faults have better relationships than those who always look to blame others for whatever goes wrong in their lives.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Think of it on the... Read more
9d
The Mercury News
I’m angry that he involved me in his 12-steppingimpossible to ignore the dated and inappropriate but persistent tinge of scorn
The Mercury News / Posted 9 days ago
impossible to ignore the dated and inappropriate but persistent tinge of scorn that comes with parentage questions.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. And even a whiff of... Read more
10d
The Mercury News
37 and taking your first solo trip? Here’s why not to tell Momisn’t easy for most people. Now it’s time to update your relationship with your
The Mercury News / Posted 10 days ago
isn’t easy for most people. Now it’s time to update your relationship with your mother to reflect who you’ve become.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Re: Solo Traveler Go... Read more
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The Mercury News
Am I greedy to want sex in my marriage?time and energy to that. An opening move that “flaunts” love, not money, sets t
The Mercury News / Posted 11 days ago
time and energy to that. An opening move that “flaunts” love, not money, sets the tone for everything else.Want to see more Carolyn Hax? Follow us on Flipboard.Related Articles Email Carolyn at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at... Read more
12d
The Mercury News
His sisters made fun of me, and he joined inissues are a known risk factor for marital strain, consider a couple’s counselo
The Mercury News / Posted 12 days ago
issues are a known risk factor for marital strain, consider a couple’s counselor who specializes in those challenges.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. DEAR CAROLYN: Is it... Read more
13d
The Mercury News
Should I reveal the sordid stories I know about his family?preferences before you make a delivery. If possible, of course; otherwise all
The Mercury News / Posted 13 days ago
preferences before you make a delivery. If possible, of course; otherwise all you can do is follow your conscience.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Re: Awkward... Read more
15d
The Mercury News
Should I let this guy determine where I live?would be ideal — several-month training stint, one-year grad program, etc. — bu
The Mercury News / Posted 15 days ago
would be ideal — several-month training stint, one-year grad program, etc. — but I can’t see many jobs allowing that.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. DEAR CAROLYN: My... Read more
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The Mercury News
He hates Christmas, but he won’t let me skip ithappy with a card. It also hurts my feelings because I put a lot of thought int
The Mercury News / Posted 17 days ago
happy with a card. It also hurts my feelings because I put a lot of thought into her gift and it is already wrapped.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Do I not give it to... Read more
18d
The Mercury News
Her kids aren’t allowed to call ‘that woman’ grandmawife’s startling contempt. One way to pry it out is by agreeing with your wife:
The Mercury News / Posted 18 days ago
wife’s startling contempt. One way to pry it out is by agreeing with your wife: “You’re right. She’s not my mother.”Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. And then don’t lobby... Read more
19d
The Mercury News
How can I stop the flood of gifts from grandma?but rely on gift management (and generosity-seeding): For every toy coming in,
The Mercury News / Posted 19 days ago
but rely on gift management (and generosity-seeding): For every toy coming in, your kids have to choose one to donate.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. There’s a bigger... Read more
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Philly.com
Which spouse gets to quit?time used for regrouping or job hunting or retraining. Insurance and benefits a
Philly.com / Posted 19 days ago
time used for regrouping or job hunting or retraining. Insurance and benefits alone could make this unrealistic, but why not do the work to find out? Character test included. Chat with Carolyn Hax online at noon Fridays at www.washingtonpo... Read more
21d
The Mercury News
I feel selfish valuing my lifestyle over a second childin, judging, told-you-so-ing, and showing utter disregard for the polite roadbl
The Mercury News / Posted 21 days ago
in, judging, told-you-so-ing, and showing utter disregard for the polite roadblock(s) you set out to discourage her?Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Assuming your account... Read more
22d
The Mercury News
What last name should we give our kids?last name (his parents’ surnames). We’re discussing starting a family, and this
The Mercury News / Posted 22 days ago
last name (his parents’ surnames). We’re discussing starting a family, and this last name issue is tripping us up. Carolyn Hax There are many valid answers here: using his full hyphenated last name, hyphenating my last name with one of his... Read more
22d
The Mercury News
My mom micromanages me as if I were dimwittedDEAR CAROLYN: I was laid off recently from a job of 15 years. My confidence too
The Mercury News / Posted 22 days ago
DEAR CAROLYN: I was laid off recently from a job of 15 years. My confidence took a blow. Carolyn Hax When I told my mom, she said, “Hurry up and update your resume. And don’t forget to add your Employee of the Year award.” I had of course already... Read more
23d
Arkansas Democrat-Gazette
LettersStephens, Arkansas columnists like Rex Nelson, Tom Dillard and John Brummett, a
Arkansas Democrat-Gazette / Posted 23 days ago
Stephens, Arkansas columnists like Rex Nelson, Tom Dillard and John Brummett, and feature writers like Sharon Randall and Carolyn Hax. Your editorial page is more conservative than our views usually are, but there is no bias in reporting. On the... Read more
26d
The Mercury News
We’ve decided to live on one salary, but which one?your one-income plan rests on trust of a higher order, and your marriage can’t
The Mercury News / Posted 26 days ago
your one-income plan rests on trust of a higher order, and your marriage can’t afford for one of you to take advantage.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. To be fair, you are... Read more
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The Mercury News
Our kid quits teams because his twin is bettersibs would — and putting in the effort to do that sends them the message that y
The Mercury News / Posted 27 days ago
sibs would — and putting in the effort to do that sends them the message that you see them as unique, distinct people.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. That, in turn, eases... Read more
28d
The Mercury News
My friends ditched me on our group vacationit’s important not to do that, that you’re worried sick (yes?) — is all excelle
The Mercury News / Posted 28 days ago
it’s important not to do that, that you’re worried sick (yes?) — is all excellent and right and completely academic.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Their kid, their... Read more
29d
The Mercury News
Want to survive the holidays? 11 tips for dealing with family and friendsto address them, either ahead of time or when they come up so you can enjoy tha
The Mercury News / Posted 29 days ago
to address them, either ahead of time or when they come up so you can enjoy that spirit of togetherness. Our experts are Carolyn Hax, the syndicated advice columnist with the Washington Post; and Bay Area-based marriage and family therapists... Read more
29d
The Mercury News
I’m 36 and I’ve picked a sperm donor, but my parents say to waitfor their routine to stabilize. They’re thinking about right now, but a baby i
The Mercury News / Posted 29 days ago
for their routine to stabilize. They’re thinking about right now, but a baby isn’t right now, it’s a pregnancy first.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. I’m sorry about your... Read more
30d
The Mercury News
Should a 17-old be buying lingerie for his girlfriend?opportunities on this specific issue? No, not unless there were context to supp
The Mercury News / Posted 30 days ago
opportunities on this specific issue? No, not unless there were context to support that his moving fast was a pattern.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. All this being said:... Read more
30d
The Mercury News
I’m not allowed to tell them my wife is angryreally hurt when you excluded me from this announcement. I feel left out on a r
The Mercury News / Posted 30 days ago
really hurt when you excluded me from this announcement. I feel left out on a regular basis, but this hurt the most.”Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Ideally — as in,... Read more

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