CAROLYN HAX

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The Mercury News
He blabbed about my pregnancy and now he won’t clean up this messlearn about so many pregnancies in the second trimester is that that’s when mos
The Mercury News / Posted 59 minutes ago
learn about so many pregnancies in the second trimester is that that’s when most women realize they’re pregnant. (Eye roll.)Carolyn Hax At the time, I told him I really, really didn’t want to share the news prematurely, but that if he couldn’t... Read more
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The Mercury News
Does wife overshare with her parents?in their personal business. It makes him uncomfortable to know his wife talks t
The Mercury News / Posted yesterday
in their personal business. It makes him uncomfortable to know his wife talks to her parents about much of their lives.Carolyn Hax We understand and would happily step back, but are not sure how to accomplish that considering they live... Read more
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The Mercury News
Son wants to cure father of serial infidelitywho left him some 20 years ago. His actions precipitated it. He remarried and h
The Mercury News / Posted 2 days ago
who left him some 20 years ago. His actions precipitated it. He remarried and had a son, now 13, who I love and know well.Carolyn Hax Related Articles In 2015, my father revealed he had a 4-year-old child with a mistress. This was obviously... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Son wants to cure father of serial infidelityfather recognize that he is making a child’s decisions with a man’s body, then
Detroit Free Press / Posted 2 days ago
father recognize that he is making a child’s decisions with a man’s body, then please don’t stand in the way. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
How to ask girlfriend’s father for permission to marry herguy’s parade! Eight persuasive arguments for choosing a partner who shares you
Detroit Free Press / Posted 3 days ago
guy’s parade! Eight persuasive arguments for choosing a partner who shares your beliefs. Thanks all. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
Mother-in-law too controlling as baby-sitterWith child care in our city being practically unaffordable, it’s a huge help to
The Mercury News / Posted 4 days ago
With child care in our city being practically unaffordable, it’s a huge help to us and beneficial for the children, we feel.Carolyn Hax But she exacts a toll for her efforts. Mainly in the form of constantly haranguing and lecturing my wife on her... Read more
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The Mercury News
The secret to happiness? Being honest with yourselfand all around on better terms with your surroundings. For further reading, Goo
The Mercury News / Posted 5 days ago
and all around on better terms with your surroundings. For further reading, Google “fundamental attribution error.”Carolyn Hax Related Articles DEAR CAROLYN: I’m getting married very soon, and my future in-laws are all in the wedding. For... Read more
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The Mercury News
Does wishy-washy boyfriend deserve unconditional love?relationship before; I’m 33 and have been in love once and had one other long-t
The Mercury News / Posted 6 days ago
relationship before; I’m 33 and have been in love once and had one other long-term relationship that ended in a healthy way.Carolyn Hax Z and I love each other but he has a hard time communicating with me about his feelings for me, or making... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Does on again, off-again boyfriend deserve unconditional love?the way — I won’t say “unconditionally” and “person” are mutually exclusive, bu
Detroit Free Press / Posted 6 days ago
the way — I won’t say “unconditionally” and “person” are mutually exclusive, but they aren’t the likeliest mix. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
He’s 8 and a vegetarian, and his mom isn’t happyup for about three months. It’s slightly inconvenient in terms of going out to
The Mercury News / Posted 7 days ago
up for about three months. It’s slightly inconvenient in terms of going out to eat and having to prepare different things.Carolyn Hax Recently I said something about it and my wife said, “I wish you’d talked to me before you made this decision.”... Read more
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Philly.com
Wife uneasy with 8-old son's vegetarianisminconvenience and nutrition worry, which might help solve the problems with the
Philly.com / Posted 7 days ago
inconvenience and nutrition worry, which might help solve the problems with the wife. Reply: Genius, thanks. Chat with Carolyn Hax online at noon Fridays at www.washingtonpost.com. We encourage respectful comments but reserve the right to... Read more
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The Mercury News
Protecting grandsons from their chaotic motheradopted our grandsons, 10 and 12, due to our daughter’s long history of drug ad
The Mercury News / Posted 8 days ago
adopted our grandsons, 10 and 12, due to our daughter’s long history of drug addiction and arrests spanning over 13 years. Carolyn Hax She is again working and has set up house with another man. She wants to regain visits with the boys, but I am... Read more
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The Mercury News
I think she’s crazy for trying to keep her dog aliveand I are both 32 and have talked seriously about marriage. I love her and she’
The Mercury News / Posted 9 days ago
and I are both 32 and have talked seriously about marriage. I love her and she’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me.Carolyn Hax Since the beginning I’ve known her dog is a big part of her life, and that’s fine with me, though I’ve never had... Read more
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The Mercury News
I wouldn’t like my daughter if we weren’t relateddo not proselytize, nor do I say anything to her — it is in her occasional opin
The Mercury News / Posted 9 days ago
do not proselytize, nor do I say anything to her — it is in her occasional opinions of this or that, and in random comments.Carolyn Hax As a person separate from me, I respect her having her own opinions, but as her mother I am so saddened and,... Read more
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The Mercury News
Broke boyfriend prioritizes drugs over job-huntingover a year and everything’s been great. He’s loving, caring, and understanding
The Mercury News / Posted 11 days ago
over a year and everything’s been great. He’s loving, caring, and understanding. Our relationship, overall, is healthy.Carolyn Hax But recently I have started noticing a growing resentment toward my boyfriend, because I’m always paying for... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Broke boyfriend prioritizes drugs over job-huntingbe running its course. Don’t confront others unless you’re sure you actually wa
Detroit Free Press / Posted 11 days ago
be running its course. Don’t confront others unless you’re sure you actually want what you’re asking of them. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
Mystery anxiety over brother’s weddingwas changing the family dynamics. My family is close and there was going to be
The Mercury News / Posted 12 days ago
was changing the family dynamics. My family is close and there was going to be a NEW PERSON. We weren’t kids anymore.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. That was 30 years ago... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Mystery anxiety over brother’s weddingand chaos. I don’t blame her for being nervous. — Anonymous Dear Anonymous: We
Detroit Free Press / Posted 12 days ago
and chaos. I don’t blame her for being nervous. — Anonymous Dear Anonymous: We have a winner. Thanks, everybody. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
My husband says the mate I want is a unicornof a man” — meaning someone who wants to have sex with his wife and be a good p
The Mercury News / Posted 12 days ago
of a man” — meaning someone who wants to have sex with his wife and be a good provider. We haven’t spoken in a day.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. I’m willing to try... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Husband refuses to take steps to improve marriageto rethink your choices. So, no, it’s not foolish at all to weigh whether you’r
Detroit Free Press / Posted 13 days ago
to rethink your choices. So, no, it’s not foolish at all to weigh whether you’re better off now by yourself. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
He doesn’t want to marry me, so why did he propose?The point of marriage is intimacy, and intimacy is about sharing yourself hones
The Mercury News / Posted 13 days ago
The point of marriage is intimacy, and intimacy is about sharing yourself honestly and mutually. Not grumpy deflecting.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. I am advising a... Read more
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The Mercury News
They bashed my teenage son for posting views on communismbe willing to share their thoughts, discuss his ideas, tell their stories — wha
The Mercury News / Posted 16 days ago
be willing to share their thoughts, discuss his ideas, tell their stories — whatever — as his teachers vs. his critics.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. If they agree, then... Read more
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The Mercury News
Hostess wants guests off her bedis somewhat flexible, it would only be necessary to talk over the respective da
The Mercury News / Posted 17 days ago
is somewhat flexible, it would only be necessary to talk over the respective dates under consideration.Want to see more Carolyn Hax? Follow us on Flipboard.Related Articles Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website,... Read more
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The Mercury News
I’m not this boy’s father but I’ve been forced into that roleI was 16, my father left my mother for a much younger woman and moved away with
The Mercury News / Posted 17 days ago
I was 16, my father left my mother for a much younger woman and moved away with her. This was a shock to the whole family.Carolyn Hax My sister, “Beth,” was 12 and my brother, “Ben,” was barely 4. The girlfriend didn’t want to deal with a little... Read more
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The Mercury News
Learning to accept daughter’s weightbed, under the couch cushions and shoved in her closet. Yes, at 3 she had the w
The Mercury News / Posted 18 days ago
bed, under the couch cushions and shoved in her closet. Yes, at 3 she had the wherewithal to find food and hide her eating.Carolyn Hax I read about appropriate food control and thought the most useful suggestion was to provide a ready plate of... Read more
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The Mercury News
I want to win back the best friend I dumpedthat we were super close, sharing our days via texts and emails; we’ve had some
The Mercury News / Posted 19 days ago
that we were super close, sharing our days via texts and emails; we’ve had some cordial enough, brief interactions since.Carolyn Hax Related Articles I understand why she did what she did, but miss our closeness and sharing. What can I do to get... Read more
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The Mercury News
My humbug husband doesn’t believe in Christmas giftsthe start of a productive conversation about what kind of Christmas would satis
The Mercury News / Posted 19 days ago
the start of a productive conversation about what kind of Christmas would satisfy both his principles and your spirit.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. It’s hardly new... Read more
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The Mercury News
I want a baby, but I need 10 hours of sleephas changed dramatically and he can get up as late or as early as he wants to n
The Mercury News / Posted 20 days ago
has changed dramatically and he can get up as late or as early as he wants to now and the kid is still an early riser.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Point being, when you... Read more
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The Mercury News
My boyfriend got married to this bougie woman, and he misses mea taker, a manipulator, a bad boyfriend, an even worse husband and an overall s
The Mercury News / Posted 21 days ago
a taker, a manipulator, a bad boyfriend, an even worse husband and an overall selfish lout is all just inconvenient.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Or maybe the strong... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Boyfriend’s secret marriage deters her, but only slightlyshine light on the ones who get it: “Thank you for just letting me cry. I know
Detroit Free Press / Posted 22 days ago
shine light on the ones who get it: “Thank you for just letting me cry. I know it’s hard to know what to do.” Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
My husband took this offensive job to ‘scratch an itch’bit of luck, which is OK — it just means you have to be more mindful and delibe
The Mercury News / Posted 22 days ago
bit of luck, which is OK — it just means you have to be more mindful and deliberate in your choosing.Want to see more Carolyn Hax? Follow us on Flipboard.Related Articles Adapted from a recent online discussion. Email Carolyn at... Read more
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The Middletown Press
Dear Abby: Alcoholic recognizes sober truths after wife leaves himher and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will brin
The Middletown Press / Posted 22 days ago
her and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will bring her back, but it may help. MORE ADVICE? Carolyn Hax: Struggling with infertility and baby-envy Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and... Read more
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Stamford Advocate
Alcoholic recognizes sober truths after wife leaves himher and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will brin
Stamford Advocate / Posted 22 days ago
her and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will bring her back, but it may help. MORE ADVICE? Carolyn Hax: Struggling with infertility and baby-envy Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and... Read more
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Connecticut Post
Alcoholic recognizes sober truths after wife leaves himher and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will brin
Connecticut Post / Posted 22 days ago
her and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will bring her back, but it may help. MORE ADVICE? Carolyn Hax: Struggling with infertility and baby-envy Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and... Read more
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Greenwich Time
Alcoholic recognizes sober truths after wife leaves himher and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will brin
Greenwich Time / Posted 22 days ago
her and describing how your health is improving. I can’t guarantee it will bring her back, but it may help. MORE ADVICE? Carolyn Hax: Struggling with infertility and baby-envy Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and... Read more
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The Mercury News
Why do they even have kids if they put them in day care?means you stretch to do the best thing for your kids and sometimes it means you
The Mercury News / Posted 24 days ago
means you stretch to do the best thing for your kids and sometimes it means you just do what you do to get through.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. It’s natural to turn... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Struggling with infertility and baby-envyanger, illness, unfairness or just giving in to the feelings of envy and resent
Detroit Free Press / Posted 24 days ago
anger, illness, unfairness or just giving in to the feelings of envy and resentment we’re all susceptible to. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
These pot-smoking slobs are my problem because of insane Bay Area rentCarolyn Hax strong>DEAR CAROLYN: I allowed my daughter and her now-husband to c
The Mercury News / Posted 25 days ago
Carolyn Hax strong>DEAR CAROLYN: I allowed my daughter and her now-husband to continue to live with me after they got married a few months ago, in hopes that they would fly the coop soon so I can finally have an empty nest. They are both 21. They... Read more
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The Mercury News
It was just a silly email but she thought it was a tauntmy closest friends, “Lana.” Alex and I work at the same company, and recently m
The Mercury News / Posted 26 days ago
my closest friends, “Lana.” Alex and I work at the same company, and recently my husband, “Ben,” also joined the same place.Carolyn Hax Lana has tried to get a job at our company several times, but for one reason or another has been unsuccessful.... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Giving friend a mulligan for e-mail outburstToo Fast? Dear Too Fast: “I don’t recall asking your opinion.” Or a cheerful,
Detroit Free Press / Posted 26 days ago
Too Fast? Dear Too Fast: “I don’t recall asking your opinion.” Or a cheerful, “Thanks! I guess we’ll find out!” Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Striking the right teasing toneon your richness in love and friendship. I say that both as a genuine benedicti
Detroit Free Press / Posted 29 days ago
on your richness in love and friendship. I say that both as a genuine benediction and a suggested mantra for you. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
I want my kids’ weekends tech-free, but here’s the problemexamples to set in there. If he can agree with you on this goal, then chances
The Mercury News / Posted 29 days ago
examples to set in there. If he can agree with you on this goal, then chances are he’ll work with you on reaching it.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Re: Screens I think... Read more
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The Mercury News
He wants to decide how his wife uses her leisure timegames. … My husband gets upset when I refuse to go. He thinks it looks bad and
The Mercury News / Posted a month ago
games. … My husband gets upset when I refuse to go. He thinks it looks bad and he has to constantly make excuses.”Carolyn Hax DEAR CAROLYN: You said the husband was OK with “serving priorities outside the marriage.” Why is that bad? Him... Read more
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The Mercury News
Husband prioritizes texting over conversation with wifesecond he gets a text message, even mid-conversation, and then dropping everyth
The Mercury News / Posted 1 months ago
second he gets a text message, even mid-conversation, and then dropping everything else to respond right away. This irks me.Carolyn Hax I am uncomfortable being confrontational and so will often build up resentment gradually until I get... Read more
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The Mercury News
He won’t get vaccinated even though we’re having a babyyour decision not to debate this with your brother, given the low instance of s
The Mercury News / Posted 1 months ago
your decision not to debate this with your brother, given the low instance of such debates changing any minds.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. That decision,... Read more
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The Mercury News
It’s not as simple as ‘I don’t want a wedding shower’that you might not even know about otherwise, plus it serves as a party activit
The Mercury News / Posted 1 months ago
that you might not even know about otherwise, plus it serves as a party activity to get people mixing.Want to see more Carolyn Hax? Follow us on Flipboard.Related Articles Adapted from a recent online discussion. Email Carolyn at... Read more
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Detroit Free Press
Not keen on a wedding showerwishes, which I suppose can be no small obstacle, but with that trust, there ar
Detroit Free Press / Posted 1 months ago
wishes, which I suppose can be no small obstacle, but with that trust, there are a lot of great possibilities. Write to Carolyn Hax in care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St., NW, Washington, D.C. 20071 or e-mail... Read more
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The Mercury News
My husband wants to go on a remote hike with a female strangerpeople figure out whether they feel comfortable or threatened. He’s flying blin
The Mercury News / Posted 1 months ago
people figure out whether they feel comfortable or threatened. He’s flying blind, and pushing you to board. No fair.Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays?Sign up for our Coffee Break newsletter here. Re: Hiker Hiker wife... Read more
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